Do you know what is the biggest killer of people and their dreams?
Well, I’m going to tell you… (and let me just say, it’s not what you think it is.)
But it’s good to know that it’s not what normal personal development or success books write about. And therefore, most people don’t even know.
As we are heading towards the end of 2016, maybe there’s some room for us to continue achieve our goals for this year.
I say maybe, because I know most of us slow down around this time. And we slow down for good reasons.
Most businesses are doing fairly well around this time. So why work harder while the flow, the traffic of customers is steady?
But over the years, as I’ve continued to embrace reading good books. I’ve discovered one thing that make only a few people very successful and the rest simply living the average life.
Successful people build momentum.
They stick with it for a while.
And they push, and push, and push some more.
Even when there are no signs that things are working out well, they still push – simply because they believe that it’s all going to pay off in the end.
That’s the reason we see a lot of successful people stick with one profession for some years. Because the truth is
It can take years to build a success momentum.
I’m talking about the kind of momentum that carries you all the way to giving you the kind of income that you don’t have to work anymore – if you choose to.
But forgetting about that kind of momentum, let me just talk a little about the momentum that carries us from one month to another.
You see, this time of the year, there are a lot of distractions.
Think about all the Christmas shopping that we have to do.
A Christmas tree.
All the decorations.
All the gifts that we have to buy for our friends and family.
And even all the food shopping.
But then again, all the businesses, like here in the UK, do their best deals around this time as well.
So adverts are even louder.
They demand our attention even more.
And the news channels make sure they have the best breaking news to keep their viewing numbers high.
But there’s more.
Movie stars know that we have more money to spend this time of the year. In fact, we are ready to borrow and spend – and do whatever is necessary just to fit in the buying trends.
And so they release the best movies around this time as well.
The best authors have their best books released around this time.
The best comedies are packaged around this time.
All of them they want our attention, our time and our money.
This last quarter of the year, things do get really, really busy.
And you know what happens in January?
Things slow right down. But why?
We seem to have had all the fun, to have spent all the money – and all is left now is to be depressed and die.
That’s probably the reason that most family tragedies to happen around this time, as well (death, divorces, separations… the lot).
And even when we start the new year by sitting down to write what we call some New Year resolutions or something, we somehow never even manage to follow up on them.
It’s only by the 15th of the first month of the year, that more than half of those who started their new year resolutions, give up on it all.
But I know that there’s a better way.
A way that I think we can make the best of January.
A way that we can keep this high-energy-last-quarter of the year to the above-average-first-quarter of the new year.
And this is simply by building gigantic success momentum in these 3 last months.
That’s what we are going to do this October, November and December.
And so today, before we start adding more flesh into what we need and how to build that success momentum, I just wanted to share one important point in personal growth.
And this, according to science, is the biggest killer of human beings.
That’s the reason I’ve said that, not a lot of books out there actually write about it.
If you read scientific reports and books, if you are interested in psychology ten you have more chances of knowing about it.
So what is it?
It’s a simply that thought about what others think about you.
In other words, I mean… in street words, it’s
Giving shit about other people’s opinions.
This means trying to stay in line with what other people think of us.
If they think we are good people, then we act accordingly.
If they think we are average, then we don’t try.
If they laugh at us, we feel embarrassed and slowly die inside.
Scientists and psychologists (aren’t they just the same guys?) tell us that by simply thinking about what others think about us, we slow our appetite to learn and grow.
If other people’s actions and words hurt us, then whenever we think about them or hear them and feel that hurt, we release the stress hormone known as cortisol.
The more we release this the worse it is for our life.
To put it in simple words,
Did you know that…
No matter what you do in life only about 10 people will care enough to cry for you when you are gone?
And even more, if it rains on your final day, more than half of people won’t even come to say goodbye.
So why give shit about others?
You know what you want to go for.
You know what you want out of life.
You are determined to go get it.
So listen to no one.
Listen to your inner drive, that inner voice that says ‘what if you can do it?’
Go honour that voice.
As we are about to add 2016 to history books, make sure you add something that 2017 and beyond, will always thank you for.
Don’t be distracted by the end of the year activities.
Stay focused on your goals.
And certainly, give no stress about what they say or think about you.
Just remember to…
Believe in progress.
And always push for progress.